Rajeev Verma Self composed & published in May 6, 2024
Navigating issues in a marriage can be challenging. To persevere in the relationship and prevent divorce, both partners need to commit to doing the work and putting in time and effort. While the goal is to save the relationship, you will ultimately have to decide if staying together is the right choice for both of you.
You and your partner may consider working with a marriage counselor or a religious leader if you share the same faith. These individuals can help you get a new perspective and can point you toward additional services if needed.
The best ways to manage safe married life, we have to learn best tips about divorce prevention. Marriage takes work, and it isn’t always easy. It takes effort to protect, nurture, and grow a marriage. Between work schedules, children, and other obligations, sometimes it can seem impossible to maintain that relationship.
These suggestions might help you get to the point where you want to work things out with your current spouse :
1. Make time to connect lovingly with your spouse every day. A couple can significantly improve their chances of marital success by devoting as little as 15 minutes a day exclusively to each other.
For example, you could wake up a little earlier, and spend the extra time in bed cuddling, making love, and reaffirming your love for each other.
2. Compliment your spouse regularly—both in private and in front of others. Even if your partner seems embarrassed or shrugs it off at first, the glow from sincere praise lasts a long time.
3. Love your spouse in the way he/she wants to be loved. We often make the mistake of assuming that the things that touch our hearts the most deeply will affect our partner in the same way. Remember: the best gift is something your spouse wants—not merely something you want him/her to have.
4. Take care of your appearance. Look your best for your spouse. Lose the dirty sweat pants or frayed top/shirt he/she hates so much; you can find other comfortable clothes that aren’t a complete turn-off for your partner. This also includes taking care of your health, eating properly and exercising regularly.
5. Remain faithful. Studies says Marriages that last a Lifetime 95% of the spouses agreed that fidelity was essential to a successful marriage, and 94% agreed or strongly agreed that marriage is a long-term commitment to one person. And these “lifers” weren’t making the best of a bad lot: a whopping 90% of the couples were happily married after 50+ years.
6. Do things together. Another common factor of long-term happy marriages is that the spouses regularly do things together that they find fun and exciting. Whether that’s dancing, singing, playing cards, driving, or participate in at least one activity that you both enjoy every week. If you have kids, make sure at least half of these activities are for you and your spouse only.
7. Spend time apart. You take a extra curricular activity course while your spouse plays chess; you play kite and your partner does knitting. You don’t have to love everything your partner loves, but you do have to allow him/her the freedom to pursue cherished hobbies without being jealous. An added bonus is that separate interests can generate interest between you.
8. Be friends with your partner. According to a research with 91% accuracy, whether a couple will stay together—says the key to marital happiness and success is friendship. Some of the most important aspects of this type of friendship are knowing each other intimately, demonstrating affection and respect for each other on a daily basis, and genuinely enjoying each other’s company.
9. Don’t Try to Control Your Partner. In healthy marriages, both partners have mutual respect for one another and don’t demand their own way. This can mean different things to different couples. Don’t try to monitor or control each other. Give your partner room to be the person they are. Learn to collaborate on big decisions (such as spending money and raising children).
Let your spouse have the freedom to come and go without having to ask your permission
10. Honor and Respect Your Partner. Start by making a list of your partner’s best qualities to remind yourself of the wonderful person you married. Let your partner know every day—through compliments or thank-yous—that you appreciate all that they do.
11. The Terms of Endearment. Flowers, chocolate, candy, cards, and gifts are all wonderful tokens of love, but if you really want your romance to last, you must practice some marriage-saving steps. Most disputes that break up marriages are over sex and money.
12. Say “I love you” every day. This is especially important when you’re not feeling the sensation of love; at these times, you have to actively generate it. Saying those three little words, and performing loving gestures, will warm both your and your spouse’s hearts.
13. Have Date Nights. Quality time means taking time for the couple to go out and share. This helps to combat monotony, allows people to get to know each other better, and enjoy more as a couple.
Continue doing the things you did when you were dating or wanted. Small, thoughtful gestures can help couples feel like newlyweds. Try leaving your partner little love notes where they will find them, make them tea/coffee in the morning, or buy their favorite snack at the restaurant.
14. Share Financial Expectations. Many marriages are fraught with disagreements over finances. Couples often bring different expectations about money to a relationship. Each partner can find it difficult to see the financial situation from the other person’s perspective.
Incorporate some flexibility in your budget to allow for entertainment, gifts, vacations, and other activities that will strengthen your marriage. Agreeing about how your money will be handled is a critical component of a successful marriage. Agree on a budget, an approach to debt, and make a plan to live within your limits.
It’s also important to differentiate between needs and wants. While both are legitimate, couples can face problems if they try to fulfill all their wants without considering their budget.
15. Communicate Regularly. Constant communication allows couples to express their feelings and not hold grudges. Many times, grudges originate because one of the parties feels that their partner does not listen to them and minimizes their feelings.
In the end
If you need help for your marriage and want to build a healthier relationship that can withstand the test of time, there are proactive measures you can take to make your marriage stronger.
Commitment, forgiveness, respect, communication, and understanding are vital. From improving communication to infusing more romance into day-to-day life, here are many ways to improve your partnership.
When couples forgive each other, they can move forward because forgiveness is a window that allows them to look to the future and not get stuck in the situations that caused them pain. Forgiving is one of the most important and also one of the most difficult things for couples to do.
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RAJEEV VERMA 